Marriage Fever And Quiet Hearts

This is my very first post this year and I want to wish all Hivers and everyone coming across this post a sweet new year.

On my WhatsApp status last year 2025, I lost count of the number of pictures of proposals and marriage videos that I saw, both from close friends and all across all social media. The marriage fever is spreading everywhere, and I could remember on Christmas day when I was on call with one of my close friends' mom, she was like, "When am I bringing a wife home?" I just had to smile and tell her very soon.

Personally, unlike others I have not been moved by the pressure of getting married because my mates are doing it and that is why my chest feels light because I know that at the right time, God will make it happen. I am always happy for those who are getting married and I have not for once questioned myself if I am late or if something is wrong. As a Yorùbá boy, they always want us to marry and not waste time so that we can give our parents grandchildren because, to them, being single feels like someone is wasting time which is totally wrong because it is better to marry late than to marry wrong.

At some point which I have not yet experienced, I have seen situation where love turn into pressure after a lot of questions from aunties, cousins joking about it and the older ones begging God on one's behalf. But a lot of these people always forget that we are not equal and the timing God has given to everyone is totally different. Because I have seen people who ran into marriage and they also ran out because the love was forced and there is no peace of mind.

Like one of my favorite musicians said, “Every man has his own season.” Which is true, we have a time to grow, learn, heal, build. And when it is the right time, the love I need will locate me and the marriage fever will be over. But until then, I will keep celebrating the weddings of others, keep my calm because one day it will soon be my turn. That is why I have decided to trust my journey with faith, purpose, strength, and joy, not with shame, pressure, or fear.

Thank you for reading.

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