First Impressions vs. Lasting Bonds: Understanding Why Dads Warm Up to Daughters' Boyfriends

Seeing this question, i could imagine myself here. Why Do Fathers always not like ( mildly hate😂)their Daughters’ Boyfriends on their first meeting but get friendlier with time. Share your thoughts with us, especially dads.😄

In this particular contest, i will be using myself as the write up.
Firstly, my dad doesn't even love the idea of me having a boyfriend at this very tender age, he usually tells me that anyone that wants to date me is wrong, because that is child abuse
Clearly, he was trying to say that i am too young for a guy to break my heart and he knows how fragile my heart is.

Let me throw in a little gist here
In my secondary school prom night, i was in love then...and because my parents were always available for me to talk to, i was always ready to Talk to them about anything bothering me....so, in that case, I was able to talk to my parents about the guy i was in love with. At first my dad was so angry and he was disappointed, because he wasn't expecting me to be in love at that age.

It was the D day and my dad was still in shocked that i was going out with a stranger that he is not aware of, he didn't even trust our prom. My dad Kept calling every second ti be sure that his daughter is safe.
I went to the prom, i enjoyed it with the love of my life. And my boo kept asking me babe are you sure your dad will love and accept me? i kept assuring him that my dad will love him just the way he is.

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It was very late after the prom, so i couldn't go home alone, i had to beg him to drop me at home...i was very excited, while he was very scared.
Reaching home my Dad asked me who is that guy that followed me home, and i reply that it's my boyfriend that i have been talking about

The first thing that came out of my dad's mouth was tell him to wait outside let me invite the holy spirit first🤣 diary of a pastor's daughter
He invited him to sit down.
All my dad wanted was to be sure of the kind of person her daughter was going for to avoid heartbreak or breakfast...

He started asking him series of questions like give me 6 reasons why you love my daughter, tell me what you want to give or do to my daughter, do you know God, can you pray, what's your faith and belief etc

Like he asked him countless of questions that even i myself wasn't comfortable with the questions.
I was upset with my dad for doing that, that was his way of telling him goodnight.
Because after those questions, my boo had to make a fake call and that was how he escaped.

I had to ask my dad questions like, why he had to do that. Then he replied, you are to fragile
I want the best for you,
That relationship won't last, let's pray about it

We were still friends when my dad invited him over for dinner, the gisted and laughed so had on his second visit. I was really happy because i knew that was the beginning of new era for us.
My dad gave us advices and warning especially not to do what married people used to do😅
They are best of friends now.

Now my dad didn't want to put up that simple version of him because that was his way of commanding respect from my boyfriend.
Secondly, he wanted to know the kind of person his daughter was moving it.
All of this is to protect me because he knew last last, i will come back to his shoulders to cry and he didn't want that....

So most times, they have their reasons for doing that, they are not just unfriendly.
But we are sha no more ooo🫣🤣 secondary school love don die since

Thank you for reading my post. I really appreciate
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