Is it that easy to forgive? ; A Reflection

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"Is it that easy to forgive?" Throughout history, a lot of people have struggled with this question. I’ve had a lot of times when I get offended by certain people, and it looks so hard to forgive them. Sometimes, it’s hard for them to even apologize to you.

Saying "I forgive you" and moving on are two seemingly simple acts of forgiveness. However, forgiveness is actually a lot more complicated. It requires recognizing the harm that has been done, understanding the reasons behind those actions, and letting go of any lingering bitterness or hatred.

Forgiveness is not easy, but it can be incredibly powerful and liberating.
We relieve ourselves of the weight of harbouring bitterness and anger when we forgive someone. It enables us to put the past behind us and move on from the hurt.

However, it's important to note that forgiveness does not mean that we have to forget the hurtful actions or condone them. We can forgive while still acknowledging the pain that has been caused.
Forgiveness is a journey, and it may take time to fully forgive someone. But, ultimately, it can lead to a greater sense of peace and freedom. What do you think? Is it easy to forgive?

A few years ago, I was deeply affected by the offense of someone very close to me. I cried for days and found it quite difficult to forgive her. I forgot about her and moved on with my life, but i was still bitterly hurt. That pain was still there; I didn’t forgive her. I lived for years with the hurt, and it was draining me on the inside.

Yeah, one thing i’ve noticed about unforgiveness is that it could drain you on the inside; you won’t feel fine at all. I recently took some time to reflect on what had happened, and in order to prevent myself from seeing her when the problem first arose, I even blocked her on all social media sites.

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I had to unblock her in order to text her to say hello. She was surprised, but we sorted it out and we both are good. It was a hard one but it was worth doing because i feel free and have peace of mind.

There were so many things that made me not to forgive her that easily which i’ll discuss, i call them barriers to forgiveness.
One of them is the fear of being vulnerable. When we forgive, we open ourselves up to the possibility of being hurt again. Forgiveness requires bravery and strength, but it's sometimes worth it in the end. Forgiveness is an act of self-love and self-compassion, and it can help us to heal and move on from the past.

Another barrier to forgiveness is the desire for revenge. It's natural to want to make the other person feel the same pain that they caused us. However, seeking revenge often ends in greater pain rather than genuine healing.
When we can let go of the desire for revenge, we free ourselves from the cycle of anger and pain. Forgiveness can help us to break free from this cycle and find peace.

Some people may argue that forgiveness is not always the right thing to do. For example, in cases of abuse or severe harm, it may be difficult or impossible to forgive the person who caused the harm.
In many cases, it may be more vital to focus on healing and going forward without forgiveness. But even in these situations, it might be helpful to let go of the bitterness and hatred.

So, what is the best way to approach forgiveness? One method is "radical forgiveness," which entails letting go of all bitterness and hurt. This can be a very challenging process, but it can lead to a deep sense of peace and freedom.

The practice of "conditional forgiveness," which entails forgiving the other person while establishing boundaries and taking precautions to keep yourself safe, is another strategy. Whatever approach you choose, it's important to take the time to process your emotions and move forward in a healthy way. What has been your personal experience with forgiveness?

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