Ain’t nothing you do can get to me
Do you have this same feeling? I get this weird “defeated” feeling when I see someone reading a book I have read before. Ridiculous right? I thought so. It feels like they know all my secrets. More like they have just cracked the code to my secret weapon. I feel like they have just taken my power away; busted and defeated 😔.
I have a similar feeling this very moment. This particular feeling is not exactly a busted or defeated feeling, it is just similar. Let me explain. I used to think very highly of myself in terms of how under-control I have my temperament. I could barely get mad at anything. Always calm no matter what is happening or being done to me. In a nutshell, I had always had my temperament under control. Not until quite recently…
Do you agree that you cannot really know your true self if you have never been tested before ? I agree with this a one hundred percent. Spectators always think they can play better than the players on the field. Because everything looks easy from a distance.
I am just realizing now that I had just never been tested well enough that is why I used to think I was so good. I can remember I have said it out loud before that I can never get mad at anything. I mean nothing could ever get to me to get me really annoyed. I am overly understanding for anything to get to me. I used to think. But there is a whole sky waiting for the bird outside of the cage, and it should not mistaken jumping around in the cage as knowing how to fly.
One surprising thing I have learnt about myself is that I am really not as patient and tolerating as I thought I was. I just did not have anything triggering me enough. Well I do have one now. 😂 And I find it therapeutic dealing with a real problem like that. I think I have my trigger to thank for it. 🥲
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‘Everyone thinks they know what they would do in your shoes untill they get there’. Most often, we might see a person in a certain situation and think we can do better. ‘Oh he is just getting angry for nothing’. But when you are in the same situation, you might even be worse😂.
But in all, we learn.
That is exactly what I am saying! “Spectators always think they can play better”. Little do they know they simply cannot. Not even a quarter as good as the players. Heck, they would simply just be worse.
I am a kind of person who does self-reflection really quickly. In fact, it is what has helped me to easily notice this particular trait about myself. Also, it helps me appreciate the effort of others. Before I conclude(judge) on someone’s actions I first of all empathize with them; what would I do if I were in their shoes? I could probably do worse.
This particular trait makes me grow quickly on a deeper personal level. It also helps me be more compassionate and I would hardly find fault in people because I know everybody has a genuine reason for acting in a certain way.
The downside to this tho is, you know in reality two people cannot both be right with different views on a single matter all the time. But in my case I will hardly find someone in the wrong. This is the reason why when two people are arguing it is hard for me to take a particular side because as they are going I see both of them make valid arguments at different points in time. So I might take a side and the next minute I agree with the other one again.
In all it is clear how important it is for one to not pass judgement or get over confident about themselves and at least wait to be tested first and not conclude on how people are not doing well enough, and just exercise patience to be in their shoes.
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Okay, I’ll not use it again.
Whatever guts that you have that made you think no one could get you out of your emotions, well I think I could use some of that for myself as well.
Come to think of it, assuming no one at all has the power to make you feel how you do not want to feel, that’d actually make you a superhuman.
But you know what, what I’m more obsessed about this post is how you’re dealing with this your new discovery, it’s amazing. I’m moved by your level of understanding and prejudice.
If I get your phone number today I would save your name “Most Open Minded Zzzinnn”
Thank you for the nice words.
I think the world would be a lot better place if we had empathy for each other.
Hopefully you will overcome your trigger soon :) I agree that we all need challenges if we are to improve...
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I actually hold a different view on the trigger here tho. Surprise! =).
I feel it’s helping me in a way, because if not for it I wouldn’t have known about this particular trait buried within me that I thought I had well under control.
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My pleasure, keep up the great work :)